Is it allo wed to send emails to your fiance during engagement to agree about certain things before the wedding with her parents knowing about it and reading each email that I send to her?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is nothing wrong with corresponding with your fiancée
in order to agree on matters to do with the wedding, if that is done with
the knowledge and supervision of her parents, and it is free of any
expressions of love that are not permissible between a man and a non-mahram
woman. It is well known that the man is a “stranger” (non-mahram) to his
fiancée until the marriage contract is done.
It makes no difference
whether this correspondence is done via e-mail or regular mail, or over the
telephone, but it is better if the correspondence and conversation is with
her guardian only.
Shaykh Saalih al-Fawzaan
(may Allaah preserve him) was asked about a man speaking to his fiancée over
the phone – is that permissible according to sharee’ah or not?
There is nothing wrong
with a man speaking to his fiancée over the phone, if that is after they
have agreed to marry, and the conversation is in order to discuss different
issues and is done only as much as is needed, and there is no fitnah
involved. If that is done through her wali (guardian) that is preferable and
End quote from al-Muntaqa, 3/163
And Allaah knows best.