Tuesday, 25 October 2011

Her family want her to have an abortion because she got pregnant as a result of zina


I have a sister, shes pregnant. Before marriage.

My family are aware of the fact that abortion isnt allowed unless mothers life is in danger. But the situation is really hard,

The boy which she got her self pregnant with isn't going to be there for her. His family do not want to do anything with this child. His brother made my mother cry, my mum suggested they get married but in return he replies "if in this dunya i can go without people knowing my brother is a father before marriage, and no one speaks of this and we have our respect. Then that's fine by me. I can go hell, whatever. But if in this life i live good and my family, then we don't care"

My parents are struggling financially with our family as it is, and if my sister keeps this baby it'll be a struggle to them. I can see how much this is tearing them apart inside.

They do not know what to do, they advised she has an abortion although they feel as if they don't know what to do. They spoke to a local imam and he said the ruling on abortion. My sister wants to keep the child. Only hopeing that the boy will return to her.

Even now even though my parents are being very considering of her, she treats them like rubbish.

I don't know what to do.

She plans to be on the list of homeless, have the child. But move out without my mother and father being aware of it.

Please tell me what to do.

Praise be to Allaah.


Your sister, you and your family should have paid attention
to what your sister committed of sin, and should have instructed her to
repent sincerely to Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, so as to cleanse
herself of the taint of disobedience and zina into which she has fallen with
this evil young man or anyone else. And you should have cut off all the
means that lead to this sin, and made her wear hijab, and prevented her from
being alone with men or mixing with them, or doing anything else that leads
to this evil action. So strive to keep him away from her and keep her away
from him by all possible means. 

Then after that, you have to think about this child and the
future of your sister. All of this is the consequences of disobedience and
sin; the sinner has to bear this burden and shame in this world, so how
about the punishment that is with Allah? 

One of the wise men said: If you get tired of doing righteous
deeds, the tiredness will disappear but the righteous deeds will remain. But
if you enjoy committing sin, the pleasure will disappear but the sin will


What your sister is trying to do of protecting the foetus is
what she has to do and what you all have to do, not only in the hope that
this evildoer will come back to her, because it does not seem that he wants
to repent or that he wants to marry her in a legitimate, shar‘i way after
fulfilling his desires with her in a haraam way. Rather you have to protect
the foetus lest you try to deal with one crime by means of another and you
harm a soul that has not done anything wrong, because the sin is on those
who committed zina in the first place, then wanted to harm this soul, either
by killing it or by neglecting it and leaving it in the street or putting it
in an orphanage, as some people do. Allah knows best about what would happen
to it, but it is most likely that it would be brought up in a kaafir
orphanage or it would be raised by a kaafir family, whether Jewish or
Christian or of some other religion, and it would follow them in their
Judaism or Christianity or whatever religion they follow. This is the worst
and most abhorrent crime against this soul, and it is worse than killing it,
Allah forbid. 

See also the answers to questions no.
13331 and

With regard to this person saying that he is prepared to go
to Hell and he does not care about that, these are words that cannot be
spoken by someone who believes in Allah and the Last Day, and who fears the
meeting with his Lord. Allah will take care of him. Let the wise man look
and learn a lesson, how people are deceived by this world and its people and
how they dare to throw themselves into the Fire of Hell, and they do not
care. May Allah the Most Generous keep us safe by His grace and bounty. 

In such circumstances the parents should continue showing
kindness and taking care of your sister, whilst calling her to repent and
mend her ways, and they should try to prevent her leaving the house or
running away from home, lest that make matters worse. 

We ask Allah to bestow His kindness upon you and set your
affairs straight. 

And Allah knows best.

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